As a bisexual
single person, you may be contemplating dating a bi-couple. Engaging in a
polyamorous relationship with a bi-couple needs thoughtfulness and
responsibility to be successful and fulfilling for everyone involved. Here are
a few things to keep in mind;
Don’t confuse
swinging with polyamory
Swinging is more
about sex, while polyamory has more of a focus on the relationship – both
heterosexual and bisexual.
Be honest about
intentions and needs
Just as in any
relationship, honesty goes a long way. It is critical for everyone to sit down
and have an open and straight-forward discussion about what they are looking
for, and what they want to give. No assumptions should be made by anyone, about
anyone. Be clear even about things you think should be obvious – like your
bisexuality.
You cannot be
the glue that mends a broken relationship
Sometimes when
couples are having problems, in an attempt to save their relationship, they
will bring in more people. Protect yourself; make sure you do not step into a
situation that is already tense and complicated.
Allow each
relationship to grow organically
Interpersonal
relationships cannot be forced. Nor should they be compared with other
relationships. It is important for all to honor both the heterosexual and
bisexual bonds as individual, and unique.
Be creative with
time management
Spending enough
time with each partner will be a challenge. Try establishing regular date
nights with each person, and include certain dates where you all spend time
together.
Do not be a
referee
Never, ever,
take sides or allow yourself to be a go-between. You will be the one who ends
up getting hurt.
With open
communication, respect, and compassion, you and your partners will be able to
maintain what hopefully will be a long-lasting, and loving relationship.
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