12/14/2016

The differences between bi-couple and threesome



Bi-couples and threesomes - at first sight rather similar. Men and women in sexual interaction among each other. But how does it actually work in life? Are there crucial differences between the two kinds of relationships?
Some say that men and women view sex and intimacy in a completely different manner. Namely, men have a need to conquer with as many women as possible. They are
ever-lasting hunters with their deeply subconscious need for procreation. Even though many men live monogamously, this is considered to be their genuine feature, their real nature indeed. On the other hand, women’s perspective of sex has to do with their self-esteem and their need to be desired and powerful. Evolution shows that women get excited when two or more men fight for their affection. Males have to prove themselves to the females, who then chose the best and the strongest option among the contestants. It is a primitive urge for a woman to have the best option, to provide herself with stability. The need is very much related to the preparation of the safe grounds for offspring.
However, these features are considered to be some general background for occurrence of threesomes in both male and female cases. Of course, we are now talking about genuine motives, sub-conscious background. In less conventional systems of functioning, threesomes occur sometimes as experiments, while some people tend to nourish the habit of having threesomes on a regular basis. The concrete reasons and triggers vary from case to case. Any individual has their own personal motives for entering this kind of relationship, whether it is an adventurous spirit, a deeply seated need for infidelity or a longing to please and keep their partner.
One of the crucial differences between threesomes and bi-couples is that threesomes do not necessarily include any kind of homosexual interaction. It happens, but the main focus of the phenomenon is not on homosexuality. While bi-couples necessarily include the aspect of accepted homosexuality on both sides.
Threesomes are also of different nature from the sexual life of bi-couples from one more aspect. Namely, bi-couples have a structured and systematic way of functioning with each other. The homosexuality being an integral part of the relationship, in the relationship of a bi-couple, the appearance of third parties comes as the established rule, agreed upon by both sides, and it happens more systematically. Threesomes, on the other hand, happen in a more random manner simply because partners do not have a constant need of interacting with partners of the same sex, if they have it at all.
Bi-couples, on the other hand, have a rather different setting. Probably a bit more complex as well. They enjoy each other’s bisexuality and fluidity. There is a little feeling of competition involved as well. Some of them claim that they enjoy their partners being attracted to the same gender, but feel fortunate to be the object of attraction as well. On the other hand, the relationship of that kind is grounded on the fact that both of them are aware of the
circumstances that they can never completely fulfill each other’s sexual appetites. Therefore, the crave for adventure is mutual and accepted. Even though there are other partners involved occasionally, or most of the time, they actually have exclusive periods in their relationships. In order to maintain the relationship, either of them can call on exclusivity due to some external challenges or just a need to feel safe. They also tend to say that they enjoy their partner’s mind and body. They form emotional relationships with great amount of understanding and acceptance, but also usually put the relationship before the need for having sex with partner of opposite gender.
Either way, humans are humans. With all their qualities, faults, affinities, cravings, lusts, desires, weaknesses or habits. We all make decisions on how we are going to live our lives. We all do our best to be who we are and not be lonely in it. We all give what we think we can, to ourselves and others, in order to meet our own personal, deeply rooted, requirements and motives. Sometimes the means for getting there are less conventional than others. Sometimes the route is more difficult or more painful. But it is still our route. And our choice.